You are potty training. Potty learning? We’re not really the “training” type. You do it when you feel like it, which is most of the time we’re home. You lower yourself onto your little plastic potty like an old, old man. It’s really funny. And then you hop up and turn around to check your progress every time you fart.
There’s a lot of exclaiming I HAVE FARTS IN MY BUTT these days.
Needless to say, if anyone needs us, we’re probably in the bathroom. It’s a PROCESS in there.
Sometimes you need to read a book. Sometimes you need to wear a mask.
I totally understand.
Hey! You can see me in your Darth Vader eyes. I don’t show up much around these parts.
And I haven’t really been writing much lately, either. I mean, actually, I’ve been writing a ton. Every single freaking day, to be precise. Just not here.
That’s SKWAP clutched in your little hand there. It’s an offshoot of Soft Thing. You’ve been obsessed with it lately, with this remnant of the whole–of the whole thing that you use to soothe yourself…just a part.
Me too.
Spring has sprung and it’s like we’re new girls. Shit, it’s like we’re a whole new family.
It’s good.
I’ve been thinking in words and pictures lately. Like, I have a thought and it’s quick, and words and pictures are seamlessly bound, and then my brain shoots back and re-has the thought, picks and chooses which pieces to give name and form to, and then saves that thought like slides in a storage box.
It’s like living in a picture book. It’s like always writing.
I am trying to pay more attention. No–better attention.
I think I just spent the better part of two years seeing the world in a blur around your body. Keepherinfocuskeepherinfocus, my brain churned. It’s like, you both showed me the world anew, and showed me the world without my self at the center of my relation to it. Not that those are such separate entities, just different places to rest in awe.
But now you’re around the corner. Now you’re reading to yourself. Now you’re at dance class.
You’re twirling hoops. And dressing up. And making faces. And telling me to go away.
And so I get to re-meet my self.
And the thing I’ve been finding is that I’m really different than I was the last time we met.
Really different.
I imagine it’s kindof how an astronaut feels when they return to Earth.
Like, it’s good to be home, but MAN things have changed.
There is space for the irretrievable journey in my heart now. There is an unsealable hole in my gut. You are the only person who knows those places, too, and you are quickly forgetting.
Not that we aren’t all lonely travelers, because we are.
It’s just that the two years I spent reoriented around your body were a death in my life. A generative, people-making, world-building death; a long, hollowing scream.
It makes me think of Robert Frost’s Road Not Taken:
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I marked the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
The thing about re-meeting me is that I’m re-meeting you, too. I’m re-meeting everyone and everything, really.
It feels like possibility.
It feels really silly, too. All of my hellos stand on quicksand, ready to sink into goodbyes or hello-agains or whatevers.
Really silly like underwear that can just as easily be worn as a hat.
I feel calm in this endless slip, can’t help but laugh at the endless newness and oldness of being alive.
I don’t know how much longer I’ll write here. There are the ethics of writing your body, of sharing your story, and there is the worry of what you might think someday down the road.
But more than that there is ME. I am letting you go and gobbling my self up, like the first ice cream of the season–cool and sweet and forecasting months of sun.
I don’t know.
I’m not done here yet. Not quite.
I can see the door I’ll walk through some day soon. I just haven’t decided what I’ll put on the other side to usher myself through.
Maybe you’ll push me. You do, somehow, every single day.
XO.